Getting out of a negative mind spiral – bottom line (PG-13 language)

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t, from time to time, go on a mental negative spiral. I am a peace-love activist, and believe love is the answer and peace of mind always the moment by moment goal.

I am also human, and get triggered like the rest of us. Cue: John Lennon’s Mind Games

And, I’m an Actress, Director, and Producer.

Which means, for me, ‘rejection’ and a ‘yearning’ for my next great role are constant companions. Recently, I have been witnessing another Indian-American Actress achieve many of the milestones I have dreamt of since infancy. Trigger. It is not seeing another’s success that is hard. I’m happy to see it. What my mind does, is tell me that since another has achieved it, I won’t. It’s over for me. And now I need a new dream because mine has no chance of coming true. No chance because someone got it INSTEAD of me.

Anyone resonate with that?

So what to do in those moments when your loved ones are listening to the pity party coming out of your mouth? (very unattractive)

GET CURIOUS about your thinking. Get fucking curious!  What the hell are you thinking? What beliefs do you truly have? Figure that shit out.

THEN…

Ask yourself this bottom line question:

DO YOU BELIEVE IN THE INFINITY OF POSSIBILITIES OR NOT?

I do believe in the infinity of possibilities. So in this recent spiral into an unattractive pity party I climbed out by surrendering to the infinite.

Yes, it is possible for me to achieve all I want to achieve with lots of other Indian-American Actresses doing the same.

Do I really believe there is not enough abundance for us all? NO. I believe in the infinity of abundance for us all.

It comes down to this: Do you believe in the infinity of possibilities or not? Do you believe that this universe we dwell in is limited and finite? Is there some mathematical equation that shows there is a finite amount of possibilities in a world with 8 billion people and Mother Nature’s unpredictability?

Do each one of our lives has a finite limited amount of possibilities available to us no matter what choices we make?

Believing in limitation feels wrong to me.

While not fun to have these negative mental spirals, they are useful in uncovering limiting beliefs.

Decide what to believe.

Infinite Possibilities or Limitation.

Do you think life will be more fun if we open up to the infinity of possibilities and have more of a “let’s see what happens” attitude instead of “this will never happen”?

YUP.

Peace.

It's All About Women: Real Women, Real Wisdom: Marci Shimoff

What if you could live in a state of unconditional love all the time? If you could love people not because they fill your needs or because they love you, but because you’re connected to a state of pure love within yourself?

 

In this episode of Real Women, Real Wisdom, I am joined by NY Times bestselling author, Marci Shimoff.

Marci has inspired millions of people around the world and is dedicated to helping people live more empowered and joy-filled lives.

 

http://itsallaboutwomen.com/mind/real-women-real-wisdom-interview-with-marci-shimoff-about-love-and-miracles-video/

 

 


In this delicious chat we talk about:

• Your Love Set Point — we all have one and it can be raised

• How to turn off your body’s stress response and turn on your body’s love response. Marci takes us through a 3-step exercise for this. (12:30 min mark in the video)

• Miracles and Love — real examples of the power of love are revealed

• How to become a magnet for love in all areas of your life (Marci shares a powerful question to ask yourself at 25 min into the video)

Spiritual Chat with Denise O'Neill: Grieving a beloved family member: Your Pet.

In this first installment of the Spiritual Chat series, I talk with my friend, Denise O'Neill about grieving a beloved family member; your Pet. In my case, my beloved Ozzy.

We are talking about grief & how we can heal & emerge with love.

At 13:00 min we discuss:
Acknowledge your loss
Express your emotions
Have a memorial to commemorate your pet's life
Capture memories /share story
Healing via Helping other animals

Learn more about the Good Grief Resource Centre and Denise O'Neill:
http://www.patchforkids.ca
http://www.mindful-mamas.com
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Good-Grief-Resource-Centre/194427750603345

"God gives us LOVE. Something to love, He lends us" ~ Tennyson
"All Things Must Pass" ~ George Harrison

With Peace and Love,

Neerja

neerjatv.com

It's All About Women Article - Oprah's Solutions to 4 Limiting Beliefs H...

Check out this great article at It's All About Women.

http://itsallaboutwomen.com/mind/oprahs-solutions-to-4-limiting-beliefs-holdi...

Next Episode is already SO MUCH FUN !

My next episode is already so much fun. I am in a creative whirlwind and I attribute it to letting go.
Learning to let go is a lifetime study. We will always have situations arise that challenge and strengthen our ability to enjoy life NOW and let go of the outcome of our desires.

Letting go is an act of self love. If you really love something, enjoy it in the present moment and let go of the outcome. Say to yourself "I love that I don't have to worry about 'it' because it is all happening the way it needs to. Yay!!" See what happens when you can say that and believe it.

I am having fun with the journey to fulfill my desires because I realized that FUN is like a spiritual barometer of sorts. Think about it....FUN. What happens when you have FUN? You are living the lesson of letting go.

So, with a creative project such as my webseries, the only way to have what I want in life, is to have fun with it NOW. Yes, there are desires and goals with my webseries, but putting my attention and concern and worry on if it will happen, when it will happen, how it will happen, only BLOCKS and SLOWS the fulfillment of those goals and desires. Who wants that?

So, until my next episode is released, here is a little gem I hope you enjoy as much as I do. (hint: inspiration for next episode).

Episode 3: How to pretend you know what's going on at work

Episode 3 NEERJA

I didn't have the courage when I was younger to tell my parents "I am an actor/artist and that is what I want to do with my life". Instead, I did have courage to tell my parents "I will not be a doctor". And when they said that I had to be an engineer instead, I said OK. Even though I had no interest or desire to be an engineer....but an engineer I did become.

My first engineering job was a disaster that lasted a few years. Yes, I have a Bachelor's of Science in Electrical Engineering. Thank goodness, I also had a boyfriend who was a technical wizard who saved my butt at work every day!!

I want to leave you with this quote from a great book I am reading now. It is from Deepak Chopra's book "Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire".
                   
                             "And when you realize that the intentions and desires that arise in you are the very intentions of the Universe, you can relinquish your desire for control and let the miraculous life your were born to lead unfold in all its unimaginable magnificence."

Perhaps if I had known this when I was young, I would have stood up for myself with my parents more so. Now that I am a parent, I can see that all my parents wanted for me was to be happy.

Well Mom, with that Private Benjamin-esque career in engineering I had, I now have a webseries that is so much fun to make. I am happy!

Thanks Mom and Dad!

Peace and Love to you all,

Neerja

Episode 2 How to Impress a Man with Classic Rock Trivia

This series is a great vehicle for all my favorite passions. One is particular is Classic Rock. Beatles, Pink Floyd, Who, Zep, Faces, Elton, Stones, so many more. While the other kids were having fun in the playground, I was off by myself, often pretending my uncles - John, Paul, George, and Ringo - were coming to visit. I pretended I was the 5th Beatle, on stage singing my heart out. The big rock in the school yard by the big tree was my stage. My parents said the Beatles liked India, so I thought since I was Indian, and their biggest fan, they would naturally be coming to visit me soon. I didn't understand things like, they broke up years ago and the band didn't exist anymore.  That's stuff for grown ups.

The series started off as a half hour pilot now turned into a webseries. The web is a FUN place to show my series. I love the creative freedom ! New episodes and bonus videos are coming.

NEERJA - A series about a woman daring to go for her dreams (behind her mother's back).

When will Neerja be able to say "My Mother is not the boss of me!"

Stay tuned :)

 

 

 

Wishing you peace, love and enjoyment of my series.

Neerja